#4: can we all just be a little more honest?
but like really, I think we can
hi hi hi sisters ♡
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this week was good, i’m feeling overwhelmed with all that there is to do in life, like just the daily life tasks and my school schedule and balancing seeing different groups of people and making time and room for the most important people has been something that has been stressing me out. i’m very much looking forward to this semester being done and having my week nights back, but I still have like 2.5 months left womp womp
I think everyone should take advantage of whatever time and opportunity they have to go out and see the fall leaves. I took a trip up to Vermont this past weekend, and which is why i’m writing this newsletter at 12:30 am monday morning… BUT I regret nothing.
I think the fall is such a beautiful time and I think we have so much to learn from the trees and nature and the life cycle they go through. I can and probably will write up a whole post on that, but I think there is such beauty and marvel in the wonder of changing seasons and the fall is particularly a time when I can reflect on those moments the most.
podcasts: I listened to a really wonderful interview that Tom Holland did with Jay Shetty just opening up about life and his struggles and getting real. Its almost 2 hours long, but put that bad boy on double speed and enjoy.
music: Olivia Rodrigo did a cover of Stick Season by Noah Kahan, it is so fun and makes the song very light hearted. I for one listened to the Stick Season album of his a lot this weekend while up in Vermont and let me tell you, it was meant for that state
I feel like the fall is Hozier season for music, I want to get into him more so if anyone has a favorite song or album of his lmk
in my mind: currently reading Solitaire by Alice Oseman. she is the writer of the Heartstopper graphic novels. this book follows the older sister of Charlie, who is one of the main characters in the Heartstopper universe. and I really like following along a different person, but still be in a world that I am familiar with. if you know of Heartstopper, this book is very different, but i am enjoying it. if you haven’t read Heartstopper you MUST. they are the quickest little graphic novels but boy oh boy are they perfection, and there are 2 seasons on netflix now of the show, and I love it sooooooo much
in my stomach: the best breakfast sandwich of my life. it was a chicken fried egg on a homemade biscuit with hot honey and I added avocado, and omg I don’t think i’ll ever stop thinking about it
for some reason this week it has really stood out to me how vital honesty is in our society. I think fundamentally being honest opens the door and paves the way for clear communication between relationships with people. but it also, and I don’t know if i’ll be able to articulate this out loud in a way that make sense like it does in my head, but being honest allows us to create deeper connections to people
this came up because as i’ve been back in new york from my internship in LA this summer, i’m still seeing people for the first time in months and months and months. and i’m getting asked constantly “how did you like LA?” “did you love LA?” “how was your internship?” “how is law school going this semester?” and i’ve gotten to the point with these questions that like i’m done giving fluff answers. so i’m answering honestly and saying “actually I didn’t really like LA. I kinda hated it. I loved the weather but I found the people to be mean and the traffic to be annoying. I loved my internship so much, and that was the most important part, but I did not like LA at all” or “i’m not liking law school really. I find my classes to be boring and i don’t know what I want to do after i’m done”
and it SHOCKS people that i’m being so honest. like quite a few people have let out a chuckle or two at my answers because I think we are so so so used to hearing and saying, “oh it was great, I loved it” “its fantastic, best experience ever” when that can be the farthest thing from the truth. my opinions and experiences on the city of LA or my PERSONAL experience in law school at the moment, aren’t going to hurt people by me being honest
now there is always another side of the coin when it comes to honesty. I think first and foremost, for the sake of others, we can word our honest opinions in ways that can deflect immense harm from those around us and the people we love. don’t lie, but like I think theres goodness behind being kind and thoughtful with what we honestly say or dont say. that being said, sometimes we need to be honest with the people we love the most, because it really does allow for open and clear communication to come forward. even if being honest hurts you and the person you love, a lot of times you will both come out stronger on the other side. this past weekend I had to be honest with bjørn about some anxieties and feelings i’ve been having and it was SO. FUCKING. HARD. I sobbed and sobbed and made him sad and sobbed some more, but we want to continually develop an honest open relationship, and I needed to express these deep worries in order for us to allow that to keep developing. (everything is okay, i’m realizing that I have a LOT of trauma from lack of stability and security from my childhood and I need to get in therapy to work through it, but like we are going to be okay)
being honest can be so so so scary, but I think that 8.5 times out of 10, it benefits us more than not. I really feel like it facilitates opportunities for deeper connections to occur and I think thats important. okay woof, these little adulting sections can get quite deep
tiktok: the cutest pup getting a check up, I love her
pinterest: this picture and this picture of behind the scenes of the making of 101 Dalmations
instagram: love this beach image; when my worlds collide; cooking with Flo was back- go watch it!!!; the duality in my emotions
oh goodness, it is past 1 am now, luckily I don’t have classes today (monday) so I can sleep in a little bit hehe
but thank you for reading another week of this newsletter, while I would love for it to grow and grow, I truly am so so so content and happy with it being a little corner on the internet for me to share my thoughts to anyone who wants to read along, especially my friends who are already here. so thank you thank you thank you
in the meantime, here are some pictures from this weekend in Vermont
xoxo,
your big sis, kaitlynn
