I once heard someone say that when she hears her inner thoughts say she “should” do something she sees if she can replace that with “want to” or “need to,” and if neither fit then she doesn’t worry about doing the thing. Like wearing sunscreen is actually something that you do need to do in order to protect your skin, so this rule means YES do it!! But if with reading more, for example, is neither something you *need* to do or genuinely *want* to do, then it’s not necessary to beat yourself up (or should on yourself!) over it because it’s just an outside pressure weaseling itself into your mind. idk if that helps you but it helped me!
ooh yes I love that!! kelley also suggested maybe using the word "could" to sound less like a punishment and more of a suggestion, and it gives your brain a little option instead of a demand! but I love the want and need as well, lets me conceptualize the thoughts more!!
I once heard someone say that when she hears her inner thoughts say she “should” do something she sees if she can replace that with “want to” or “need to,” and if neither fit then she doesn’t worry about doing the thing. Like wearing sunscreen is actually something that you do need to do in order to protect your skin, so this rule means YES do it!! But if with reading more, for example, is neither something you *need* to do or genuinely *want* to do, then it’s not necessary to beat yourself up (or should on yourself!) over it because it’s just an outside pressure weaseling itself into your mind. idk if that helps you but it helped me!
ooh yes I love that!! kelley also suggested maybe using the word "could" to sound less like a punishment and more of a suggestion, and it gives your brain a little option instead of a demand! but I love the want and need as well, lets me conceptualize the thoughts more!!