#63: re-marriages are hard
drop your top songs, artists, albums !!!
hi hi hi sisters ♡ I am feeling like getting into the christmas spirit and I cannot wait to walk around new york and see all the decorations! whats your fav christmas/holiday movie and what do you do to get in the festive spirit?
i made an instagram account for the content i’ve been creating since tiktok will probably be gone come the new year :/ come give it a follow ◡̈
keeping the recommendations section to recommendations for different substacks that I read. I find it to be really important to support small “businesses” (that sounds odd to use here, but maybe influencers is another word I can use?) and one way I can do that is by sharing about them!
boy oh boy do I have a great substack to share with you all. the coolest girls I follow on instagram are the girls that love books and four friends in particular
, , , and came together to create . lit girl is a substack for curated literary conversations. there is syllabi you can find on Substack, they also host in-person events and I hope to attend one soon! truly you do not want to miss out on this substack!
movies: went and saw queer by myself this week in theaters, I loved it visually and I really liked the first 30-45 minutes but after that I just wasnt that interested in the story, but the visuals were keeping me entertained. I watched thelma on the airplane to vegas, it was so cute and funny and silly and made me miss my grandma jo a lot, but it was nice to watch a movie about grandparents. and lastly I watched the cartoon frosty the snowman, a nostalgic classic.
podcasts: absolutely LOVED this dual combo of podcasts with Madi Murphy (of the bad broadcast) and Hayley Rawle (of girlscamp), they went on each other’s shows and both interviews go hand-in-hand and were really nice
music: its that time of year that all apple music listeners feel like shit because spotify drops their annual wrapped that not only looks better, but just gives you more data (like how many minutes of podcasts you listen to…) because as of right now, I only listened to just under 13,000 minutes of music, which is NOT a lot… BUT that doesnt count ANY podcasts, so I did some quick math and realized that I listened to over 40,000 minutes of podcasts this year, and thats missing many episodes and minutes of content that is not included… stupid apple (but I will not be changing hehe)
for the first time in my life, Taylor Swift was not my top artist, not even in my top 5… she was #6, BUT here are some stats for those interested:
Top Artists:
Noah Kahan (I’m surprised too)
Sabrina Carpenter
Lizzy McAlpine (I need her to be #1 at some point but she needs more music out)
Chappell Roan
Kacey Musgraves
Top Songs:
Hinds Hall by Macklemore
Espresso by Sabrina Carpenter
Please Please Please by Sabrina Carpenter
A Quick Getaway by Stephen Rennicks, from the Normal People score
After Midnight by Chappell Roan
Top Albums:
Stick Season (We’ll All Be Here Forever) by Noah Kahan
The Rise and Fall of a Midwest Princess by Chappell Roan
Older by Lizzy McAlpine
Deeper Well by Kacey Musgraves
Short n Sweet by Sabrina Carpenter
these top albums make so much sense because these are the concerts I went to this year (not Chappell though, I just love her)
in my mind: what type of crier are you? I am an attachment, sentimental, and societal crier.
in my stomach: when on the west coast I had to eat cafe rio and in n out and dutch bros, and even though I had all of them twice, I was not sick of it at all
this weekend I was in vegas for my dad’s1 wedding. and it was a really nice experience, but also came with a lot of mixed feelings. in 2021, my mom, her sister (my aunt), and her brother (my uncle) all got divorced from their partners. which means I lost an aunt and uncle from divorce, which is just a weird thing that nobody talks about. these people that were in my life for over 20 years are now no longer family members to me, idk its weird. all three of them (my mom, aunt, uncle) all started dating their current partners shortly after their divorces.
in october, my aunt got remarried. my uncle is getting remarried in may, and my mom doesnt have plans to get married, BUT my dad got remarried. I dont really know how to explain it, but it is weird to hear wedding vows being read and made by people who have broken those vows multiple times with past partners (we are talking about like third marriages for a lot of these family members of mine). and while I am SO happy, it just feels like part of it is fake and its hard to take it seriously while knowing that theve have been made and broken before.
but I guess that is also what is beautiful about a person getting remarried. even though they have dealt with a broken marriage, they have hope that maybe this time around it will stick. they have hope that this time around they can be a better partner, that they can better themselves and that that would help a relationship. I dont know, its all complicated, life is complicated, and families are even more complicated. I hope that I never have to deal with a divorce myself, I have faith though ♡
pinterest: a good reminder; love this bar area
instagram: love this quote and graphic; would pay big bucks for this
i’m already thinking about new years resolutions and i’m getting excited, i’m going to be chatting about them soon!! and i have a few last couple of weeks already planned out that I cant wait to write about. love you all! thank you for being here ♡
technically he is my step-dad, I have a really complicated family tree, but I was 12 when she married my step dad and i’ve always called him dad. they divorced in 2021 but he is still part of my life and my dad.